Resolving End of Life Conflict Within Families

October 5, 2022

Family Is A Circle of Strength & Love

Throughout our decades of funeral services at Greenlawn Funeral Home, our caring team has been asked many times by families in SpringfieldBranson, and Bolivar what it’s like to be in this profession and express how, from the outside, our work might seem somewhat depressing or burdensome.

While it is true that the work we do here is not easy, we always respond that, above all else, our job is immensely rewarding. We view it as an honor to have someone entrust to you the planning of a loved one’s final farewell. We are also constantly inspired by the resilience of the human spirit and the strength of the family bond when facing a loss together. Having to face unexpected tragedy reminds us that we’re not alone and shows us who deeply cares for us. There are times, however, when the emotional strain of losing a loved one and the stress of making dozens of practical decisions can result in tension or even discord. Family dynamics can be difficult to navigate under even the best circumstances, so you can imagine what a challenge it can be when people are in the throes of grief.

One thing we have seen soften, or even eliminate, this strain: choosing to pre-plan your funeral. This is one of the many benefits of making your prearrangements.


Here are some things you will want to

address to prevent future disagreements


The choice between cremation or burial

While cremation has become more popular and is certainly within the mainstream, some people still have reservations about it. There are even some religions that are hesitant and prefer more traditional options.

If you have strong feelings on the topic, you should make your wishes known in your rearrangements so it does not become a topic for debate after you’re gone.

Funeral costs

Money is one of the biggest causes of arguments after a loved one dies. Family members can disagree over who should pay for the funeral. The loved ones you leave behind may have different income levels. Those with less money could feel pressure to spend more than they can afford to “keep up” or show how much they love you. It’s easy to overspend when emotions run high. But since not everyone in your family might be tempted in that direction, it can cause disagreements.

If you can prepay for your arrangements, you enable your family to grieve your loss rather than stress over financial considerations. Our team is here to help you explore your funding options, including potential veteran benefits.

Service style

Some family members may want to keep your farewell simple and intimate, while others want to remember you with a large, lavish service and reception. When you pre-plan, you can communicate to your family exactly what your wishes are. If you would prefer something traditional, we can help you plan a visitation and funeral service, perhaps with a formal dinner to follow. Want your farewell to be a little different? Consider arriving in a motorcycle hearse or a horse-drawn carriage. You can also inject the service with thoughtful, personal touches that will communicate who you were and how much you loved your family.

They say pre-planning is one of the greatest gifts of love you can give your family, and we believe that to be true at Greenlawn. If you’ve chosen to pre-plan your funeral, share in the comments below why you’re glad you made that choice.

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